I have had this post in draft for a long time and feel it is appropriate for many facets of life.
Mark Devine from SEALFIT wrote this is on his blog a couple years ago and I think about it often to help me push through tough times.
Embrace The Suck!
Today I would like to introduce another habit of the masters – I will simply call it “Embrace the Suck!”
To embrace the suck means to develop the habit of suffering in silence.
The obvious corollary is that you will not shy from suffering – in
fact, as you learn to embrace the suck you look for actions and goals
that require an unusual element of suffering to succeed. Soon you will
come to appreciate and enjoy the hard won rewards of your personal
growth earned through this trial by fire.
The habit of
Embracing the Suck is developed through the deliberate internalization
of any expression of pain or discomfort during periods of suffering.
When you hit the sweet spot of the workout and the pain is intense, or
you are so cold you can’t stand it any longer, that is when you must
embrace the suck. Those are the times to double down and feel the
aliveness of the moment, feel how utterly indomitable your spirit
actually is. You swallow the natural yearning to wince, cry out in
pain, whimper and project weakness…all acts that will undermine your
mental toughness and the team’s trust, especially if you are the leader.
Turn Your Focus Outward
Others in the same boat as
you will be suffering alongside you, and they will naturally follow
those who can bite their lips and turn their attention to helping
others. Nobody wants to participate in your pity party and you can only
make life better for yourself and others by embracing the suck and
being helpful rather than selfishly think you are the only one
A good way to start learning to Embrace the Suck is
to put a smile on your face in the middle of the challenge – when you
least feel like smiling. You will, admittedly, find this difficult to
do…however this simple action will give you strength and train your pain
tolerance to a new level. Another thought is to repeat the mantra
“pain is weakness leaving my body.” Soon you will notice that the pain
begins to dissipate, transmuted into strength.
As you grow
tolerant of pain, and can turn the inward strength that embracing the
suck develops into an external expression of control and resolve, you
are on your way to mastery!
Now go do something really sucky and revel in it! Hooyah! Coach Divine
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